It’s hard living with someone who expresses anger often. It can be equally difficult when that someone suffers from depression or communicates poorly. Our energy is drained when we take extra effort to make sure Jack doesn’t get mad because the car is dirty, or when Jill starts to yell when the trash hasn’t been taken out. How many times have you called in sick for Uncle Bill who hasn’t been able to get out of bed because life is so hard. Taking care of people struggling with these types of issues can be exhausting.
Let me encourage you with this: take time to fill your cup. Is it taking walks by yourself, playing video games, calling a close friend? Go for it. Spending so much time on others can make us bitter, stressed out, angry. Make sure you are taking care of yourself. It is not selfish, it is necessary. We are complex people and can be thrown out of balance when we neglect our physical, spiritual, and emotional needs. If you pray, pray. If you used to pray and go to church, consider going back. There will likely be others there who can support you during this time. Take advantage of it, people usually don’t offer help and support unless they mean it. Be the best you can be, so that during this difficult time, your loved one can see how their actions are affecting others. Get help for yourself, then your loved one.